Extrovert problems

[feuervogel]

So, I work from home, and I don't really see anyone outside the pub anymore. I've been too busy to throw a party for a while (though I intend to have a 40th birthday bash), and my entire social life consists of sitting with my husband on our couch.

This is ... inadequate.

I don't get invited to parties, or "hey, we haven't seen each other in ages, let's hang out this weekend," or anything where I can feel something like an emotional connection to someone other than my husband. (OK, some newish friends from the pub invited us to poker night next weekend, but that doesn't sound like the kind of thing where you can hang out and talk about stuff, since you're playing poker.)

I like doing stuff with people! But I don't know how to get people to invite me places. No one thinks of me when they think "people I want to have at my NYE party" or whatever. This is why I keep telling Ben I don't feel like I have any friends at all anymore. Even the people I was closest to who live on the other side of the country now I feel like I've drifted really far from.

I don't know how to make it better.

Comments

[ruthling]

making friends is hard. :( Are there things you like doing that are out in the world? Find a group of people who do them?

[feuervogel]

I like drinking beer, writing & reading SFF, running... lots of very solitary activities. Which is a problem! I thought about joining my local running club after a 5k in May, but they run at 8 am on Sunday (and Wednesday evenings in summer), and that's a little early for me. (I usually get out the door for my Sunday morning run around 8:30, so it's only a *little* early, but with the timing of my thyroid meds (30 minutes before breakfast) and eating breakfast and digesting a bit, it's tricky.)