Am I being weird about this?

[feuervogel]

My sister is pregnant. I want to crochet her (baby) a blanket.

I emailed my mom to ask if that's something she'd like, and mom replies that I should email sis a picture of the pattern and let her decide if she wants it and pick a color.

Isn't that the opposite of a gift? I'd planned to go to the store and pick out a pattern from a book and some yarn, or get yarn that has a pattern on the label. I want to make something very neutral gendered: no pink or blue, no patterns (hearts or flowers). I saw a book of afghan crochet (the kind of crochet that's like single-hook knitting) baby blankets, and I liked one of the patterns in it.

Honestly, now I don't even want to bother.

Anyway, internets, am I wrong for being upset that I should let a gift be dictated?

Comments

[krait]

I disagree with letting sister dictate every aspect of it! That's a gift, but it's not the gift of a baby blanket; it's the gift of X hours of your knitting time, i.e. a custom order.

I do, however, think it would be a great idea to ask what her chosen nursery colours are. Nothing more specific than that! That way SHE doesn't know what you're making, and YOU don't have to be bound to a particular design. (If she's doing the nursery in a colour you can't match, you can easily pick a neutral that will blend in harmoniously, and she'll never know or be disappointed that you couldn't do the precise thing she was envisioning.)