feuervogel: (facepalm basti)
But due to the comments on the LJ xpost of this, I apparently have to make it explicit.

COMMENTING RULES
1. DO NOT use slurs against marginalized groups. This includes lame and retarded.

2. BY NO MEANS DEFEND your usage of these slurs, because meanings change/etymology/it's a minority opinion/wtfever. If you do, I reserve the right to call you an asshole, a privileged jackass, or a jerk.

Thank you.

Date: 2011-02-04 12:46 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] steuard.livejournal.com
That's true. Part of my strategy involves time, though: I try to plant a seed that may eventually lead the other person to change their mind. My experience has been that it's very rare for them to reverse course immediately, even if it doesn't take that long for them to come around after that discussion is over. (If nothing else, there are well-recognized forms of cognitive bias that make it very hard for people to change positions in the middle of a debate.)

And in fact, I saw what looked like a great example of that in the discussion on your earlier post: [livejournal.com profile] thegreyghost was (as you say) digging in his(?) heels through all of the hard-hitting arguments and invective in that discussion. And then [livejournal.com profile] leora made a calm and reasonable statement that her friend felt hurt by the casual use of "lame" and she explained some of the real effects of connecting broadly negative language to disabilities. And in the very next comment (http://akiko.livejournal.com/1081151.html?thread=3833407#t3834687), [livejournal.com profile] thegreyghost finally said "I'm open to it". Personally, I call that a win, and I suspect that he'll wind up using "lame" less often as a result.

If my years of intense debate through the flame wars of Usenet taught me anything, it was that people essentially never respond well to harsh language, no matter how valid the reasons behind it. I became one of the most respected Tolkien scholars on the 'net not just by having knowledge, but by (usually) finding ways to communicate it well.

Date: 2011-02-04 01:42 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] thegreyghost.livejournal.com
Since I've been named, I'll chime in to clarify a bit.

I mostly conceded in exhaustion, taking pause to reflect and regroup. Also because there's only so much I can dispute when approached by the person who is directly affected by the topic.

Additionally, akiko comes from a position that strongly opposes bigotry. While I'm not a fan of it either, I come from a position that strongly opposes censorship. It was on the message of her previous post that our swords crossed.

I don't know if we'll ever come to an exact agreement on this, but I'm willing to better understand her perspective. I believe that we both want a better world and we'll never defeat the enemy if we're at each other's throats.

Date: 2011-02-04 03:03 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] steuard.livejournal.com
Opposing censorship is important, I agree! When I see any of this class of issues presented in a tone of "You Must Not Say These Things", it grates on me and raises my anti-censorship hackles, too. But at its core, most of the aspects of this stuff that I fully support boil down to Wheaton's Law (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wil_Wheaton#Wheaton.27s_Law): "Don't be a dick!" (Supplemented in this case by the frustrating warning that, "There are subtle ways of being a dick that may not have occurred to you.")

If someone simply forbids me from saying something, I'll usually object. But if someone tells me that saying that thing hurts them personally or gives a clear argument that it could do unanticipated harm to others, I'll take that into account when I choose my language in the future. And I don't consider that to be censorship at all.

Date: 2011-02-04 03:31 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] corpsefairy.livejournal.com
I don't think it's censorship to say that "saying such-and-such makes you look like a jerk." And I don't think having commenting guidelines like [livejournal.com profile] akiko's is tantamount to censorship.

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