Day 25: Asexual awareness week

[feuervogel]

(I know what the icon says. I don't seem to have uploaded the "invisible queer" icon I had over on LJ.)

I'm asexual. Now you're aware.


It took a long time for me to accept and claim that label for myself. I've never found sex all that interesting; it was just What You Do. It took reading a lot of thirst posts on tumblr and people talking about how much they have sex and want to have sex that absolutely don't resonate with me. Plus a lot of memes about cake being better than sex, and, well, yeah. I'd rather have cake. Or brownies, or cookies, or whatever.

It's been 5 or 6 years I think since I accepted that fact. I can't say that this wasn't a factor in my divorce; mismatched sex drives can be a problem. There were several factors, of which this was a minor one.

My roller derby name, Hardace, is both an allusion to asexuality and a play on "hardass." I have pride stickers on my helmet. I'm not shy about it anymore, at least not in queer(-friendly) spaces.

Comments

[ruthling]

Hardace is a very cool name.

I also like cake a lot, it would be a hard decision if I had to choose either sex or cake, and I guess depends on the sex and the cake.

[feuervogel]

Thanks :)

I made this birthday cake one year that had a hazelnut meringue bottom with a rich chocolate cake on top, all covered with a chocolate-hazelnut ganache, and it was amazing. I can't find the recipe online, though it came from Bon Appetit like 2003.

[ruthling]

you drive a hard bargain!