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I don't know his actual last name, but Dennis Tengu attacked me before we left for Dragon Con on Thursday.
When Dennis and [a friend] arrived at my house, and Ben and I loaded the car, Dennis threw my luggage at me then proceeded to unleash a torrent of vitriol and swearing at me for no reason. He refused to say why he did that when I asked for an explanation. I had no idea why, and I said it wasn't like I'd even seen him in five years to give some sort of offense. He responded, "There's a reason for that." (I only ever saw him at COUP-related events, and I stopped going about 5 years ago.)
When we stopped at a rest area, he apparently told Ben (when Ben told him that his torrent of vitriol was completely uncalled for) that he did it to preemptively win the argument over who got to sit in the front seat. (Never mind that I get motion sick.) I can't remember what [friend] said he told her, but it was a little different than what he told Ben. (Possibly that he didn't want me to talk to him at all.)
Both Ben and [friend] told him that his actions were uncalled for. He showed no remorse and refuses to apologize or even say a word to me.
Dennis apparently does not consider me a human being who is worthy of respectful treatment. He is a sick, vile person; he has sociopathic tendencies. His actions fit an abuser's profile: he knows how to act around people who he wants to see him in a positive light, so that when he is horrific to someone, they don't believe that person or they defend him. They call it "drama" to stick up for you and make sure his actions have consequences [ie LOSING FRIENDS].
When Dennis and [a friend] arrived at my house, and Ben and I loaded the car, Dennis threw my luggage at me then proceeded to unleash a torrent of vitriol and swearing at me for no reason. He refused to say why he did that when I asked for an explanation. I had no idea why, and I said it wasn't like I'd even seen him in five years to give some sort of offense. He responded, "There's a reason for that." (I only ever saw him at COUP-related events, and I stopped going about 5 years ago.)
When we stopped at a rest area, he apparently told Ben (when Ben told him that his torrent of vitriol was completely uncalled for) that he did it to preemptively win the argument over who got to sit in the front seat. (Never mind that I get motion sick.) I can't remember what [friend] said he told her, but it was a little different than what he told Ben. (Possibly that he didn't want me to talk to him at all.)
Both Ben and [friend] told him that his actions were uncalled for. He showed no remorse and refuses to apologize or even say a word to me.
Dennis apparently does not consider me a human being who is worthy of respectful treatment. He is a sick, vile person; he has sociopathic tendencies. His actions fit an abuser's profile: he knows how to act around people who he wants to see him in a positive light, so that when he is horrific to someone, they don't believe that person or they defend him. They call it "drama" to stick up for you and make sure his actions have consequences [ie LOSING FRIENDS].
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Date: 2014-09-02 01:43 am (UTC)From:no subject
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Date: 2014-09-02 08:23 pm (UTC)From:I have no reason to expect to see him, since I told the person whose driveway he's going to park his "home" in (he lives in a fucking MPV for fuck's sake, and I think he slept in the car in the hotel garage all weekend) that I won't be there if Dennis is.
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Date: 2014-09-02 04:42 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2014-09-02 06:17 pm (UTC)From:If only all three of our stories were enough to convince the people who are defending him/telling me I'm causing "drama" that Dennis is a fucking problem and needs to be ostracized. But no, that's Geek Social Fallacy #1, and you can't ostracize anyone. I am extremely disappointed in one of our mutual friends right now.
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Date: 2014-09-04 02:03 pm (UTC)From:*hugs*
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Date: 2014-09-04 04:17 pm (UTC)From:The other person in the car defended him when I said he has an abuser's profile by saying "he's got the profile of a weird hermit." Yeah, if the Unabomber is your model for that.
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Date: 2014-09-06 03:58 pm (UTC)From:no subject
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Date: 2014-09-02 02:38 am (UTC)From:Though that's not the weirdest thing about him. He lives by choice in a Mazda MPV in an undisclosed location.
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Date: 2014-09-02 03:12 am (UTC)From:--Beth
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Date: 2014-09-02 02:49 pm (UTC)From:What needs to happen, TBH, is that everybody who knows me and him needs to say that he was wrong, that I am a person who deserves respectful treatment, and that he is no longer welcome in their lives.
I am willing to cut anyone out of my life who disagrees, because choosing the side of no "drama" is choosing the side of the abuser.
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Date: 2014-09-02 02:49 pm (UTC)From:If the reason he gave Ben is valid, I wouldn't be within 500 ft of this person.
WTF.
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Date: 2014-09-02 02:51 pm (UTC)From:I'm still really pissed off about that.
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Date: 2014-09-02 04:29 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2014-09-02 06:12 pm (UTC)From:This only confirms that Dennis knows exactly what he is doing when he attacks people, and who his victims are. If he'd attacked Dana, for example, Dave would cut him off (most likely; I'm assuming that a friend verbally assaulting your girlfriend with neither remorse nor apology means that person is no longer a friend). But I'm "safe" to attack, because he doesn't care about me or Ben, and he doesn't think that Dave or Dana do, either. (And, tbqfh, I don't think they do, because if they DID, Dana would have had him walk the fuck home yesterday. She's too concerned that *I*'m causing drama with this.)
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Date: 2014-09-05 02:12 pm (UTC)From:This guy is a problem, and he needs to be evicted from this social circle.
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