Is it possible to prep some kind of "assembly dinner" like burritos where you simply make two protein options (one meat, one not meat) and the entire rest of the meal can be applied to everyone?
As for the root issue, I've found that the meat vs no meat argument largely gets pushed to extremes because one party can't eat meat at all and the other party doesn't like having its diet dictated by the former party. I think most people are inherently understanding about dietary needs when presented neutrally, such as "can we maybe not include peanuts because I will die," but it sounds like your sister has some baggage from previous food conflicts that she's bringing into this one.
I imagine if you politely and calmly express that meat physically makes you sick and that you would appreciate a compromise option, they would be okay with it. Using "meat eaters" as a derogatory term and calling them inflexible can be antagonizing, which results in the extreme backlash response. You'll have to let the frustration go and approach them from the honest and rational position in a positive and educational tone if you want them to chill out and realize that yes, you're asking for support for one meal and will not hold it against them if they go steak-tastic the night after you end your visit.
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Date: 2013-06-01 02:06 pm (UTC)From:As for the root issue, I've found that the meat vs no meat argument largely gets pushed to extremes because one party can't eat meat at all and the other party doesn't like having its diet dictated by the former party. I think most people are inherently understanding about dietary needs when presented neutrally, such as "can we maybe not include peanuts because I will die," but it sounds like your sister has some baggage from previous food conflicts that she's bringing into this one.
I imagine if you politely and calmly express that meat physically makes you sick and that you would appreciate a compromise option, they would be okay with it. Using "meat eaters" as a derogatory term and calling them inflexible can be antagonizing, which results in the extreme backlash response. You'll have to let the frustration go and approach them from the honest and rational position in a positive and educational tone if you want them to chill out and realize that yes, you're asking for support for one meal and will not hold it against them if they go steak-tastic the night after you end your visit.