Emotional sympathy answer: This sounds rough. It's hard for one person to meet all of another person's social needs.
Fix-it answer: Is there someone in your life who is looking for an exercise buddy? I meet my friend from church every Monday and Friday at the gym and we walk the treadmills for half an hour together and chat before doing our separate things on the weight machines. Our stated fitness goal is to drag our bodies into the building, and neither one of us has the willpower to do it without the other. This is the time of year when people make resolutions, so it might be a good time to find someone. Do you have a neighborhood mailing list? You could ask on that to see if there is someone interested in walking with you regularly.
Given that you are an extrovert with hobbies/interests that generally appeal to introverts, one might expect that the ask/invitation ratio would be larger than one. The extroverted person might ask people to do things with her 10 times for every one time that an introverted person invites her to do things with them. The introvert is more likely to decline invitations on flimsy excuses because they feel like, "I've already socialized once this week, I can't handle another one."
You are clearly not interested in topics that frequently appeal to people in your age demographic (raising children) so much like lesbians at Mudd, your pool of candidates is small and you have to work extra hard to cultivate acceptable social contacts. Your life satisfaction difficulty switch is not set to "easy" right now.
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Date: 2016-01-02 01:54 am (UTC)From:This sounds rough. It's hard for one person to meet all of another person's social needs.
Fix-it answer:
Is there someone in your life who is looking for an exercise buddy? I meet my friend from church every Monday and Friday at the gym and we walk the treadmills for half an hour together and chat before doing our separate things on the weight machines. Our stated fitness goal is to drag our bodies into the building, and neither one of us has the willpower to do it without the other. This is the time of year when people make resolutions, so it might be a good time to find someone. Do you have a neighborhood mailing list? You could ask on that to see if there is someone interested in walking with you regularly.
Given that you are an extrovert with hobbies/interests that generally appeal to introverts, one might expect that the ask/invitation ratio would be larger than one. The extroverted person might ask people to do things with her 10 times for every one time that an introverted person invites her to do things with them. The introvert is more likely to decline invitations on flimsy excuses because they feel like, "I've already socialized once this week, I can't handle another one."
You are clearly not interested in topics that frequently appeal to people in your age demographic (raising children) so much like lesbians at Mudd, your pool of candidates is small and you have to work extra hard to cultivate acceptable social contacts. Your life satisfaction difficulty switch is not set to "easy" right now.
--Beth