Extrovert problems

[feuervogel]

So, I work from home, and I don't really see anyone outside the pub anymore. I've been too busy to throw a party for a while (though I intend to have a 40th birthday bash), and my entire social life consists of sitting with my husband on our couch.

This is ... inadequate.

I don't get invited to parties, or "hey, we haven't seen each other in ages, let's hang out this weekend," or anything where I can feel something like an emotional connection to someone other than my husband. (OK, some newish friends from the pub invited us to poker night next weekend, but that doesn't sound like the kind of thing where you can hang out and talk about stuff, since you're playing poker.)

I like doing stuff with people! But I don't know how to get people to invite me places. No one thinks of me when they think "people I want to have at my NYE party" or whatever. This is why I keep telling Ben I don't feel like I have any friends at all anymore. Even the people I was closest to who live on the other side of the country now I feel like I've drifted really far from.

I don't know how to make it better.

Comments

[ckd]

Argh, indeed. I wish I had a good answer for you, but I'm still looking for one myself at the moment (due to a major life circumstances change); while I'd be more than happy to invite you to things once I get to the point of being able to plan them, distance will be a factor.

[feuervogel]

Thanks. Distance is definitely a major factor in seeing cool people, because time and money to get to the places with a high concentration of cool people aren't always available :/ And it's not just the really distant places that involve flying; I live about 20 minutes from Chapel Hill & Durham, and it may as well be California for all I see friends who live there.