This is entirely uncharitable of me

[feuervogel]

My mother is more excited about my sister's new baby (Clara Rose, born just before midnight last night) than about me getting a doctoral degree.

To be fair, she is also more excited about my sister's new baby than my sister's college degree or any of her achievements in theater.

Not that that makes it a whole lot better, really. It just makes it less about me and more about my mom only valuing baby baby baby.

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[feuervogel]

My mom has wanted a grandchild since I got married 15 years ago. (Though honestly? She's probably wanted a grandchild since I was BORN.)

I do not understand wanting to be pregnant or have babies or raise them. At all. I know why, for me, anyway. The thought of being pregnant squicks me out like whoa, and then you have small humans dependent on you for everything, and I really don't want people being dependent on me. Cats are about the most dependency I can handle.

I have a lot of thoughts on my ambivalence to this child and my mom's reaction, which will be a separate, longer, locked post.

[krait]

Yep, very much the same here. Pregnancy is a squicktastic load of DO NOT WANT, and I don't have the patience for children. I cannot conceive (heh) of any appeal whatsoever in listening to spit bubbles and wiping bums; nor am I delighted by the thought of the years that follow.

(Funny story: mum was talking about a cousin's baby, once, and how it was a year old; I asked whether it was talking yet, and was horrified when she said "no" - asked if something was wrong. Learnt that nope, babies still can't talk at that age, normally! Went away with another data point against ever attempting reproduction; imagine pouring yourself and your resources into a bottomless drain for a year and the thing still can't even communicate?!)

I look forward to your locked post, at some future date. ♥