:/

[feuervogel]

I am grumpy.

I am chronically undersocialized.

I can't afford to host parties as often as I did when I was actually getting paid.

I am an extravert (ESTJ).

I am also apparently a horrible unpleasant person that no one wants to spend time with because I'm mean and horrible. (No really, I've gotten emails detailing exactly how I am a horrible person and that's why no one wants to invite me to things.)

These things are all related.

But apparently when I throw a party, people come (probably because they know I make good food, because I'm a Heinrich, dammit, and we like food*).

But finding time when people are all free is tricky, because, you know, grown-ups and work and other standing plans and whatever.

But regardless, I'm going to try to have people over once a month on a standing basis because if I don't start seeing and interacting with humans other than my husband on a regular basis, I am going to go insane.

*digression: when I was a kid, I used to love these hors d'ouevres my mom would make that are dill pickles (not spears) coated in cream cheese and wrapped in corned beef. I hadn't thought about them until the Xmas party, when mom brought them. I made Ben eat one to feed my nostalgia. If anyone knows of a vegetarian corned-beef-like substance, please let me know.

Comments

[kurai-seraphim.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's people showing up for the food so much as people show up when things are happening and they're free combined with the fact that you actually plan things well by giving enough notice for people to plan accordingly. I don't get invites to a lot of things and most of the ones I do come with either too little notice or entail traveling a few towns over on inconvenient nights. Your parties tend to be Saturday nights, which are generally best for me, so I manage to make them.

You guys are free to head out in my direction any time you're interested in getting out of the house. I know I'm a solid half hour away, but I don't mind hosting people. One of the things I've found is that my local friends have been progressively moving further west/north and my "central" location in RTP is growing less central by the year.

[feuervogel]

It's true, I organize and plan things well in advance so I don't end up with everybody saying "Oh sorry, I'm busy." I mean, I've got things on my calendar into forever, and weeknights aren't usually good because of work (not mine). I've never really been the type to do things on two days' notice, and especially as my friends get older and busier and everything, it's even more important to plan ahead. Blargh.

(I think people like the food, though. I like making food, I just have no income.)

My friends seem to be mostly Raleigh-ward anymore. I'd be more interested in your movie night if Sean weren't going.