You are willfully and directly causing harm because you refuse to understand their point of view

Reality check time?

To understand somebody else's point of view and to give a fuck about somebody else's point of view, I need to have good reasons *to* give a fuck.

Liking that person, respecting that person, or needing that person for something goes a long way. And if something else is finding something that I'm saying hurtful, that's mostly their problem and not really my problem.