It varies, depending on the book... Buffy is written by both men and women. Gotham City Sirens, Zatanna, and Power Girl are written by men, though PG is drawn and heavily influenced by a woman. Empowered...might be a bad example.

I can dig the personal affirmation and I hope I better see what you're working on. I'm overcoming a lot of similar crap; deprogramming how I see myself in spite of my upbringing.