"...but the things which society values, and 'things women do' aren't on that list.

Aaah... I see now. That's probably why I didn't get the context. So, if a book were written about your life, you're checking whether your self in the story would resonate more with people if the experiences were identical, but if you were depicted as a man?

Side note: I've recently noticed that most of the comics I've been reading these days have strong female characters in the lead. I think I've always had an attraction for those kinds of stories and it just happens to be a good time to accommodate that. Though I don't know where to begin on where that attraction comes from.