Yes! Rationalisation - that's exactly what it sounds like in my ears, too. Especially the ones who want to join in the horror stories/insane details of child being annoying/the various things they suffered for the sake of some kid.
If the person you're talking to hasn't suffered through what you've had to suffer, there's a much greater chance they're going to greet your "funny story" about child-induced sleep deprivation/poop all over something/screaming baby in inappropriate public place with wow, no thanks; I'm gonna go get an IUD and spend my extra money on a trip to Paris instead of sympathy and oh, wow, that's even worse than what my little darling did, haha! Better make it sound like the first one isn't an option! Insist that's a phase, for maximum smug "I am more evolved and mature than you" points.
And as for "everyone wants babies" - that one's always struck my ear as somebody trying to rationalise the fact that they took a life-altering decision without pausing to so much as consider thinking about it first. I assume that person didn't bother to ask themselves whether they wanted parenthood; it happened, and rather than face up to their lack of self-knowledge, they just decide that they *must* have wanted it: if everyone wants it, then so did they, no thought required! And that means they fulfilled their desire, rather than screwed themselves over by totally failing to analyse their goals/plans and learn about their options!
The look of betrayal on their faces when I start up with, "Well, you can be perfectly content without children, as well..." is an odd thing.
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If the person you're talking to hasn't suffered through what you've had to suffer, there's a much greater chance they're going to greet your "funny story" about child-induced sleep deprivation/poop all over something/screaming baby in inappropriate public place with wow, no thanks; I'm gonna go get an IUD and spend my extra money on a trip to Paris instead of sympathy and oh, wow, that's even worse than what my little darling did, haha! Better make it sound like the first one isn't an option! Insist that's a phase, for maximum smug "I am more evolved and mature than you" points.
And as for "everyone wants babies" - that one's always struck my ear as somebody trying to rationalise the fact that they took a life-altering decision without pausing to so much as consider thinking about it first. I assume that person didn't bother to ask themselves whether they wanted parenthood; it happened, and rather than face up to their lack of self-knowledge, they just decide that they *must* have wanted it: if everyone wants it, then so did they, no thought required! And that means they fulfilled their desire, rather than screwed themselves over by totally failing to analyse their goals/plans and learn about their options!
The look of betrayal on their faces when I start up with, "Well, you can be perfectly content without children, as well..." is an odd thing.
Haha, I just bet! I wish you had a video clip. :D